Question:

Assalamo alaikum
My wife is a reverted muslim but lately she has been saying strange things. the other day during an argument where she kept calling me that this is how YOU muslims do and i didn’t learn anything new in islam, i was better before being muslim. etc
Question is, does this fall under category of Kufr / sentences which may warrant Shahadah again and in that case may be Nikkah too ? what is islamic ruling on these sentences.

Thanks

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

To safeguard one’s tongue from speaking that which is inappropriate is extremely essential. Many statements that are spoken without much consideration result in severe consequences.

You state that your wife said, “I was better before being Muslim.” This is a grave statement. Such a statement indicates that the speaker is not pleased with Imaan and is pleased with Kufr (disbelief). The Ulama have written that one who is not pleased with Imaan, rather he/she is pleased with Kufr has become a Kaafir.[1]

Due to the statements made by your wife, we advise that you kindly ask your wife to renew her Imaan and the both of you should renew your marriage.[2]

You state that your wife claims that she has not learned anything new in Islam. As a husband, it is your responsibility to educate your wife Islamically. Teach her the beautiful ways of Islam.

Also, you must maintain the best of character with her, showing her that Islam demands the husband to express the best of character to the wife. This is extremely essential to preserve your wife’s Imaan, especially since she is a new Muslim.

Furthermore we advise you to provide your wife good company of pious Muslim women in the community. If there is a Ta’leem session for women in your community, encourage her to attend. You should also have a daily Ta’leem session in the house wherein the both of you sit and read from the books “Fadhaail al-A’maal” and “Muntakhab al-Ahaadith”.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

(Mufti) Abdul Azeem bin Abdur Rahman

Checked and approved by my esteemed Ustadh, 

Mufti Husain Kadodia Saheb Hafidhahullah

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[1]  وَمَنْ لَا يَرْضَى بِالْإِيمَانِ فَهُوَ كَافِرٌ كَذَا فِي الذَّخِيرَةِ. وَمَنْ يَرْضَى بِكُفْرِ نَفْسِهِ فَقَدْ كَفَرَ (الفتاوى الهندية، ج 2، ص 257، المكتبة الرشيدية)

فتاوى حقانية، ج 1، ص 260

[2]  مَا كَانَ فِي كَوْنِهِ كُفْرًا اخْتِلَافٌ فَإِنَّ قَائِلَهُ يُؤْمَرُ بِتَجْدِيدِ النِّكَاحِ وَبِالتَّوْبَةِ وَالرُّجُوعِ عَنْ ذَلِكَ بِطَرِيقِ الِاحْتِيَاطِ (الفتاوى الهندية، ج 2، ص 283، المكتبة الرشيدية)