Husband not praying
Assalamu alaikum...i converted to Islam 4 years ago...I am since February 07, 2022 married halal and after 1 month i got pregnant. Now our daughter is 2 months old...I have some problem with my husband, he doesn't pray, doesn't read quran nothing, even after we are intimate with each other , he doesn't take shower direct, he take shower after few hours or it can take also 1 day and that's not right, when he come back home from the work, he sleep in the same clothes because he says "it's too tired" to change the clothes....I don't want to live my daughter wirhout her father but i don't have any other option because i can't luve wirh such a man sorry ...i told him we should divorce but he said to me that if we divorce and i marry with another man then he will try to kill me, like this he said but i didn't got scared of what he said be ause in the fact it is his own mistakes, he is doing kuf because he don't pray, nothing...
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister in Islam,
It is encouraging to see your concern with regards to your husband’s Deen.
At the outset, in every marriage, there are some positives and some negatives.
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam advised us to focus on the positives. When one will focus on the positives, then he/she will be happy and grateful in the marriage.
You state that your husband works. That itself is a great positive. He realizes his responsibility as a husband and is making efforts to take care of the family.
Furthermore, he is the father of your daughter.
Indeed, not praying is a major sin, however, it does not take an individual out of Islam. Your husband is still Muslim.
The best way to advise someone is through kindness and love. Not through threats and harshness.
Our opinion is that you should never let your husband feel that you are displeased with him. Do not bring up the topic of divorce at all. Make him feel as if he is the best husband. Do whatever you can to make him happy.
Discuss with your husband that as a family, you should decide a time in the day when the family sits together and reads some Quran collectively and some Ahadith together for a few minutes daily.
The method of reading Quran collectively is that each of you will recite one Surah or a few verses to each other daily.
The books of Hadith that we recommend are Fazaail A’maal by Sheikhul Hadith Molana Zakariyya Rahimahullah and Muntakhab Ahadith by Molana Yusuf Kandehlawi Rahimahullah. You may alternate between these books. These books have Ahadith on the rewards of good deeds and the punishments for disobeying Allah.
This session of Quran and Hadith will have a great impact on the hearts.
Our suggestion is that you should only give advice to your husband about Deen during the daily session of Quran and Hadith. The rest of the day be kind with him and live with love and mercy.
You are newly married. You can make this is very successful relationship. Do not give up hopes. Have trust in Allah and make Dua daily.
May Allah Ta’ala grant you success in your marriage. Ameen.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mufti Abdul Azeem bin Abdul Rahman Khan